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Why I Swapped Dinners for Coffees on First Dates
It’s quicker, safer, cheaper and less awkward
I went on roughly 100 dates before I met my partner. It took a long time for me to meet the right man. By the time I did, I had my dating process refined.
I would quickly scan online profiles about once a week and send a smile to anyone that met my criteria. I learned to be specific about what sort of man I wanted. At the end of my dating career, I was very strict with myself about who I would meet.
Going out to meet a prospective partner in person was quite nerve-wracking at first, but as time passed, I got more confident. I did have a lot of disappointments, though. Either we didn’t get on, or I liked him more than he liked me. Or vice versa.
When I was dating there was no Covid. I only had one or two Skype dates (there was no Zoom then) but only because my date lived in a different city. It would have been quite odd to suggest a Skype date with someone who lived nearby, so coffee it was.
What I did, back then, was swap dinner dates for coffee dates. Here is why.
It takes up less time
Getting all dressed up to go out to dinner takes ages. Choosing a nice outfit, matching shoes and makeup, it takes a while. As a single…
