My puppies are adorable. Cute and cuddly, like living teddy bears. To my surprise, they have adopted the birth order traits of human children.
How can that be? Toy poodles are the second most intelligent dog but surely not clever enough to do research. Besides, they don’t know my computer passwords.
I’m not sure why or how, but they display very different character traits.
Woola is the eldest and very sensible. He looks like a Victorian gentleman. Polite, calm, and restrained. I can imagine him wearing a tiny bowler hat.
On the lead, he trots along nicely like a circus…
Every day I wake up and wonder who I am.
It’s not amnesia; It can’t be. I haven’t hit my head. I remember things. The handsome hunk wandering around my house looking for his cuff-links is oddly familiar. So is the grown-up mini-me rabbiting on about trans YouTubers and the connection between ableism and fictional superpowers.
What bothers me is I don’t know what to say when people ask me what I do for a living. Actually, bugger other people, I want to know what to tell myself.
This matters to me. …
When I sit down to write, I need it to be easy. I like to write and edit without distractions or irritations.
Dr. Ben Hardy writes about the importance of the environment in his book Willpower Doesn’t Work. The gist of his approach is that you won’t eat a healthy diet with a fridge full of rubbish — environment matters. I’ve extrapolated that to “you won’t write effectively with a less than ideal working space.”
If you are cramped, haven’t got the right equipment, and can’t reach the items you need, writing can become a painful experience. …
If you are newly single and struggling to navigate the murky waters of online dating, you are not alone. According to the American Psychological Association more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, so more than half of us end up back on the dating market at least once.
If you are a separated or divorced man, this can be a confusing time. The way we date has changed, and so have women’s expectations.
The quickest way to go on some dates is to join an online dating site and start chatting with women. …
Your first week as a leader is exciting but also scary. You aced the interview. Now you have to prove you can do the job.
Overnight your peers become your direct reports, and the big cheese boss becomes your line manager. You are expected to immediately add value big time.
You have likely been promoted because you do your current job well, not for your leadership capability. If you get leadership training, you will be in the lucky minority. If not, growing as a leader is up to you.
We’ve all experienced terrible bosses, hated managers, and toxic teams. …
Many people, usually men, tell me that sexism no longer exists. They say that women have equal rights, equal pay, and the pendulum is swinging too far in favor of women.
After I’ve counted to ten, tried to stop my head from exploding, and gathered enough control to answer rationally, I state my case.
We have equal rights but systemic discrimination in the workplace. We don’t have equal pay. And we face hundreds of microaggressions, put-downs, incorrect assumptions, and unwelcome comments every year.
Let’s look at one example.
What happens when women buy a car?
How do you know if you are a great boss?
And why do you need to be one?
For a start, why wouldn’t you want to be a good boss? If you are doing a job, you may as well excel. And your team will thank you for it. Working for an awesome manager is easy. Working for a toxic boss, not so easy.
There are loads of benefits to being a good leader:
My recent redundancy has rammed it home that it is wise to have more than one string to my bow. What organization would only have one client? Why would I only have one employer?
Medium is now my extra bowstring.
I’ve been writing since November 2020, and I’m learning new things daily.
There is a lot of information to cover. To be honest, it’s been quite daunting: Publications, curation, editing, style. All new territory for me, and I’m soaking up masses of advice every day.
Though the style of writing on Medium is different from what I’m used to, the…
“So the Hammer served as the witch hunters’ manual to determine who was having lustful romps with Satan.Thanks largely to this one book, up to 80,000 suspected witches were rounded up and put to death in Europe from 1500 to 1660.” — Carlyn Beccia
The results were not good.
Because I’m over forty, have pets, have a mole — the…
If my twenty-one-year-old daughter was whisked back in time, I’m sure she would be shocked. Not by the whisking itself or David Tennant turning out to be a Time Lord in real life. But by the working conditions.
The workplace has changed in the last forty years. What was normal then is almost unbelievable now.
In 1978 I started work as a Saturday girl in a department store. Since then I’ve worked in accountancy, banking, retailing and transport. There have been many changes since since 1978, most of them for the better.
Here is what the workplace used to be…
Brit in Auckland writing about leadership for new leaders, diversity, post divorce dating, and becoming a writer/entrepreneur. Warning: random humor included.